Thursday, August 03, 2006



I was too ill to post on Father's Day. And yesterday was Daddy's birthday. It was either post or go out to dinner. I chose dinner ;) So in honor of him...

Thirteen things about Daddy, Papaw, Pop...

1. Daddy is my "step-dad", but the only TRUE father I've had. He married my mom in 1979. I was 3 years old.

2. I love him for CHOOSING to be my daddy. He has never made me feel like I was a burden or that he regreted making that choice. And I love him just as much for that!

3. My biological father called my mom one evening and yelled at her for "making" me call Bryant "Daddy". After the phone call my mom talked to me and told me I could call him anything I wanted to. I said, "Can I call him 'Superman'?" I was three. And he's still MY SUPERMAN to this day!

4. Daddy was involved in everything I did. He not only showed up to my swim meets (in 100+ degrees in the summer and -20 degrees in the winter), but he volunteered for any position they needed him. I only remember him missing a few meets, but they were due to military training.

5. Daddy was (is) involved in our church. VBS, camp, youth group, outings, Bible study, missions trips, sleep overs, movie nights, etc.

6. He baptized my son, Jacob. I remember the day Jacob asked him if he would baptize him and tears welled up in Daddy's eyes. The moment after he lifted Jacob up from the water they both embraced for the longest time. My eyes still fill up with tears. (I have that picture framed and sitting right beside my computer monitor.)

7. Daddy was my birthing coach. He went to lamaze classes with me and everything. I figured this big, strong guy would help me just fine... plus he'd already delivered two babies (once when he was on Rescue 20 and once as a police officer) so I thought that would be an advantage. Huh. He was more nervous than I was. We were in the elevator heading up to the birthing center, and I look over at the buttons and watched Daddy press the braille number 2... not the actual button. He kept pushing it, looking up at the floors and wondering why it wouldn't move. Finally, I pushed the right button and off we went.

8. Daddy went with my brother on a missions trip to Mexico when Jacob was just nine months old. They returned home late in the evening so I took Jacob over to see him before I had to take him to daycare on my way to nursing school early the next morning. The instant Jacob saw his Papaw he started kicking his feet and reaching for him. When Daddy picked him up Jacob was smiling so big and had tears in his eyes. That still amazes me to this day. What love he has for Papaw... his buddy. (That's what they call each other. "Hey, Buddy". Precious!)

9. Daddy has been there for me during my ENTIRE illness. He's massaged my shoulders, temples, jaws and back (once upon a time when I could handle that... now it makes the pain much worse). He's held cold cloths on my head and emesis basins up to my mouth. He's given me his hand to squeeze when the pain's unbearable and a hand to hold when it's all just too much. He's driven me hundreds of miles from home to see my neurosurgeon at the best hospital for my diseases. He's taken flights from the other side of the country to make it to my bedside for surgery. He's missed only two operations out of over 20... and both were while he was on a tour of duty in Bosnia. My biological father... who lives only an hour away... managed to find time for only two operations. Both were in a hospital just minutes away from his house. Both times he stayed for less than an hour. Once was after surgery (1989) and he brought my sisters. The second time he arrived while I was in the recovery room (1993) and brought one sister with him. I was so ill that they only allowed three people back for a brief moment... my daddy gave up his time to go to the recovery room to allow my biological father see me. What a man! He continues to support me financially, physically, mentally and spiritually every single day!

10. One day when Daddy was on the police department he was asked to protect/guard the KKK... Daddy's black. He stood there with his head held high and protected the very men that hated him and wished him harm. He's amazing!

11. He's been married to my mom for 27 years. He stuck right by her side with the many years of her suffering with Crohn's Disease. When she had her surgery last September with a 30 day hospital stay and 6+ months with open wounds that needed cleaned and changed multiple times a day and TPN that was fed to her through her PICC line... he did it ALL!

12. During that entire time he slept on the living room floor just to be right by her as she slept in a chair because she couldn't sleep in their bed!

13. He slept on the floor... this was just two months after he returned home from war in Afghanistan (and sleeping on a cot... if he was lucky).

14. He served our country for almost 35 years and retired January 2006. He's now working as a civilian on a military base. Thank God they can't deploy him anymore!

15. He's MY Daddy!
Jacob and I thank you for every single thing you have done for us! We KNOW our lives wouldn't be the same without you in it! We Love and Adore You, Your Baby Girl and Your Buddy.

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50 Comments:

Blogger Mama Duck said...

How sweet! Thanks for sharing, happy TT!

10:20 PM  
Blogger Pass The Torch said...

Great tribute! Super idea for TT. Mine's up!

10:27 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

WOW ... that was an enduring and LOVING tribute to an amazing man. There are not many like him, alas, and it's so great that you appreciate all he is.

I an honored to have read about him. Give him a hugn from a chick who misses her great dad!

10:39 PM  
Blogger MysteriousLady said...

What a precious tribute to your Dad!

Happy Thursday!

10:52 PM  
Blogger Southern Girl said...

I think this might well be the best TT I've ever read. What a wonderful Daddy you have and how precious you are to express it. :)

Happy TT!

11:01 PM  
Blogger YellowRose said...

What a beautiful, wonderful tribute to your daddy!! I loved it! I hope you have him read it!

Happy Thursday, my TT is up!

11:19 PM  
Anonymous Christina said...

What an amazing T13! It made tears well up in my eyes. Your daddy sounds like such an incredible man. The one about you asking if you could call him Superman made me smile, and #11 just blew my mind. I can't imagine the kind of strength it took for him to do that. And I love the baptism picture - very nice.

11:42 PM  
Anonymous Dariana said...

What an awesome list and tribute. Thanks for sharing. Happy TT, mine are up too.

11:48 PM  
Blogger Chana said...

i'm trying to learn many lessons. one of them is that we can make our own families. that they are from the heart and not by blood. you obviously know that already and how happy i am that you are so darn smart emotionally and spiritually too..

he looks like a lovely person. pls say hi. hope he is all better from surgery.

glad that you were able to post again. makes me hopefull that you are feeling a bit better.

hugs to you all.

12:41 AM  
Anonymous Suzy said...

I'm in tears reading your tribute to this once in a life time man! Have you ever heard of Dennis Rainy from Family Life Today. Do a google on him...he talks about writing tributes to our parents and giving them as a gift. Your tribute is perfect for such a gift...loved reading about this wonderful man!

12:51 AM  
Blogger Tess said...

with a Daddy like that you just can't stop at 13.

My Daddy is my step-dad too, but I'll always be his baby girl.

1:01 AM  
Blogger Raggedy said...

What a beautiful tribute to a wonderful Daddy! Wow! I was very moved by your list...This is awesome!
My TT is up

1:04 AM  
Blogger Barbara said...

You have a great Dad! You have a right to be proud!

My TT is up.

1:13 AM  
Blogger EmilyRoseJewel said...

Very touching list. My stepdad has looked after my mom and I. We love him dearly. My thoughts are with you!

1:29 AM  
Anonymous kelli said...

That was a wonderful list about your Dad. It sounds like you have an awesome relationship!

2:00 AM  
Anonymous dawn said...

That is a wonderful tribute. Sometimes are "real" parents can let us down in so many ways. I think that the parents who are our "step-parents" care more for us, as they did literally choose to be with us.

My list is up

2:23 AM  
Blogger Laura said...

awwwww such a sweet post about your daddy!
my tt is up.

4:01 AM  
Blogger Happy0303 said...

What a great testament to your father. You're so lucky to have such wonderful memories!

5:57 AM  
Blogger LadyBugCrossing said...

You are a very lucky girl to have such a terrific daddy. My daddy sounds very much like your daddy. So, I guess we are both very lucky girls.
xo
LBC

7:38 AM  
Blogger Carmen said...

i mean, the whole thing is sweet, but the baptizing one made me cry. :)

7:40 AM  
Blogger Shelli said...

That is just beautiful, Kimmy! You did a marvelous job. I hope he reads it.

7:44 AM  
Blogger Reverberate58 said...

Kimmy I know your pain is not gone but it is good to see you trying to get beyond it a live! I have so missed you! This is a wonderful tribute to your daddy and how good a man he is. He was placed in your mothers path to be there when you both needed him! Thanks so for sharing your story!
MY T13 is up. Happy Thursday!

7:56 AM  
Anonymous Gail said...

That's so sweet, especially that he got to baptize your son!
Mine's up.

8:17 AM  
Blogger It's a FLIP-FLOP World said...

Wow!! What a tribute to your "real father" the one who stuck beside you all of the way and was there for you!! He is indeed Supeman to you, Jacob and your mom...GREAT POST...Plus I am glad to see you back.
Sandy

10:02 AM  
Anonymous colleen said...

This is very touching...especially because my husband is also my son's step dad who they love.

I have corn and arethat at my place.

10:07 AM  
Blogger TC said...

What a lovely touching tribute to a man that contributed so much to your life.

10:20 AM  
Blogger novaks8 said...

pass me a tissue please.


You are blessed to have him.

10:42 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What a beautiful list! Jenny

11:19 AM  
Blogger Trish said...

Now *that* is beautiful. You've just made my day.

Happy TT!
Mine are up.

11:21 AM  
Blogger FrogLegs said...

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww.... I want a daddy... I bet he's amazing. :)

11:34 AM  
Blogger Karen said...

Girl, that was so awesome! YOu are lucky to have him, but he is so very lucky to have you too. The baptism picture...wow. It brought tears of joy to my eyes.
My TT is up!

11:44 AM  
Anonymous Write From Karen said...

OMG! This whole thing brought tears to my eyes. It is SOOO refreshing to hear someone say something positive about a step-parent. And my goodness, what a lucky gal you are to have him in your life!

Thanks for sharing him with us!

11:58 AM  
Blogger ...jus me said...

Kimmy, Such a touching post for a loving touching man. I know that you realize how lucky you all are. I love it when God's Plan shows so clearly! Love all the pictures too! Especially the baptism picture. Wish they would have let my Daddy baptise me. But that is one of the few times I saw him in church and one of the last things we talked about. Thank you for sharing your Daddy with all of us.

12:39 PM  
Blogger Lindsey said...

Awww, your Daddy sounds so wonderful! Thank you for sharing! Happy TT!!

1:06 PM  
Blogger Leanne said...

Aww I love your Daddy! What a lucky girl you are to have such a devoted and loving REAL father in your life.

I hope you're feeling better now, too.

Hugs, and thanks for participating in the TT!

1:34 PM  
Blogger cdorsey said...

GREAT list. That is too sweet.

Catherine
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1:47 PM  
Blogger Emily said...

what an amazing TT. :) thanks for sharing so many fabulous stories with us. -- i hope you're having a low-pain day, kimmy!!

2:55 PM  
Blogger benson659 said...

How sweet! What a great way to honor one of the most important people in your life :)

My TT #3 is up

4:15 PM  
Blogger Ocean Lady said...

What a superdaddy you have! He is amazing! You and your son are very LUCKY!

5:38 PM  
Blogger Buttercup said...

He sounds like a very special man.

10:00 AM  
Blogger Irish Church Lady :) said...

Wonderful tribute and an awesome father for you!

11:04 AM  
Blogger Shannon said...

Such a sweet post, thanks for sharing.

4:32 PM  
Blogger FRIDAY'S CHILD said...

Sorry for being late but was here early and you weren't up yet. Anyway, your list was great. You have such a wonderful step dad. Very rare. He truly indeed deserves your tribute.
My TT13 is up too.

10:00 PM  
Blogger Hattigrace said...

Just read a bunch of your blog. What a courageous woman you are.

5:46 AM  
Blogger Mindless Dribbler said...

Whoa Kimmy...awesome tribute....

I bet he's thinking he's just as lucky to have you in his life as you are to be in his.

Awesome.

4:59 PM  
Blogger Pink Chihuahua Princess said...

This post brought tears to my eyes because it is so sweet! Despite your health problems, you have sooo much to be thankful for my dear. And, I'm so glad that you appreciate it.

He sounds like a wonderful man!

8:57 PM  
Anonymous Mrs Lifecruiser said...

What a GREAT Dad you have, I can understand that you wanted to make this equally great tribute to him.

Simply wonderful :-)

1:58 PM  
Blogger Virenda said...

He sounds like the most amazing man ever and I just can not believe one person could be so wonderful.

I am so happy that you have such a great father.

12:08 AM  
Blogger alfieping said...

I added your blog to mine.

Your Superman is wonderful. You are so lucky to have him. I am moved.

2:37 AM  
Blogger The Green Family said...

Oh My!

That was the kindest tribute I have ever read! *sniff* *sniff*

"Superman"...I love that!

You are so blessed to have such a great man in your life!

Thank you for letting us get to know him. I feel honored!

12:41 PM  

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